I read an opinion piece recently that millennials don't say 'thank you' enough. Saying thank you is just the right thing to do, especially when you do wish to convey your gratitude. I wanted to remind millennials, and all generations, that thank you cards are not a thing of the past.
We threw a little reception with close friends and family at the end of October. and I had sent out all of our thank you cards within 10 days of the event. I have heard some people say that the deadline for sending thank yous out is 90 days, and other times I've heard up to a year. I think a year is an absurd amount of time to neglect showing your appreciation, and that 90 days is excessive. I understand a lot happens after an event like a wedding, graduation or baby shower, but you ought to be able to take a couple minutes to write out a sincere note of your thanks.
What To Write in Thank You Cards
It is not hard to write a quick personal note to people you love and care about for coming out to celebrate with you and for their gift. If it was a gift registry item or something wrapped (i.e. not a check or cash), simply tell them how you enjoy it and plan on using it for X, Y and Z. If it is a monetary gift, thank them and tell them how you plan to use it—as part of a down payment on a home, add it to your honeymoon fund, or for an activity the two of you enjoy doing together, etc.
After A Couple's Event, Who Should Write The Thank You Cards?
It didn't necessarily fall on me as the bride to write our thank you cards, but I, personally, wanted them to be sent out promptly and spent the bulk of a Saturday morning handwriting them out myself to ensure this would be completed in a timely manner. Typically, the bride would write out cards for her side of the family and her friends, and the same for the groom.
I don't think people send their sincere thanks enough today, and I didn't want to be grouped into that since we are incredibly thankful for what we've received. We're both in our mid/late-20s, and have had many friends never send thank yous following their weddings, house-warming parties, baby showers and graduations. Sending a gift is an act of kindness—it isn't something people HAVE to do—so it really is rude to not thank them. Giving a gift should never be expected, but thanking someone for a gift, regardless of the occasion, is a must.
A Secondary Reason for Sending Thanks
Receiving a thank you card also helps the sender know that their gift was received. If you never hear or receive a thank you for a gift you sent, you may question if they even got it in the first place. If you aren't going to send a card or letter, at least show your appreciation by calling (do not text and don't email) to say thanks.
I think it is important to acknowledge gifts received via a thank you card especially when they have been received at a large event, like a wedding, because the gifts are often not opened in front of the giver. If you received a gift, always be sure to thank those who gave it to you.